Because tomorrow is Valentine’s Day—a
celebration of lovers—here is a one-card-search technique you can use when you
are wondering how things stand between two people in a relationship, whether
that be you and your partner or some other couple.
Shuffle your cards as you pose a
request like, “Please tell me something about the relationship between [Name]
and [Name].” Shuffle as you normally would, but when finished shuffling, place
the stack of cards face up, so the picture sides are showing. Go through the deck—pictures facing up--until
you find The Lovers card. The cards that
flank it will give you insight into what each person brings to the
relationship, so lay The Lovers, along with the cards that come before and
after it, in a three-card spread. The
Lovers card commonly portrays a male and female couple, so, if you have a
version of this card that places the woman on the left side of the picture
space, consider what the leftmost card tells you about her, and what the card
on the right end tells you about him.
It is significant when a court card
or other type of card that portrays a potential personality type, (often called
“people” cards), is backing one or both members of the male and female Lovers
pair. If of the same sex, this could
reveal the “face” that the man or woman is showing to the other, because when
we are in relationships, we tend to project a certain persona to our
partners—often an idealized persona—in the hopes of better capturing their
interest. If such a personality card
just happens to be a card you would consider the person’s normal significator, ,
this would indicate that he or she is acting naturally, being straight-forward,
what-you-see-is-what-you-get. If a
personality card is reversed, it could indicate that the person isn’t entirely
comfortable with the role he or she is playing in the relationship.
Sometimes you get a male
personality card on the woman’s side or a female on the man’s side. Among other things, this could indicate that
the dynamics of this relationship bring out the man’s “anima” (inner female),
or the woman’s “animus,” (inner male), or it could mean that his or her
attitude toward relationships has been shaped by previous experiences with
certain persons of the opposite sex.
Under some circumstances, an opposite sex figure next to the man or
woman could indicate that he or she is either involved with someone else, or
not quite ready to make an emotional separation from a previous partner. In some cases, a King or Queen in those
positions might warn that a partner is potentially enmeshed with Mom or Dad. However, you should not jump to unfavorable
conclusions unless you already have some solid, real-world evidence for
suspecting.
If both of the flanking cards
portray human figures that look inward toward The Lovers, this is a good indication
of their level of interest in the relationship.
However, if characters are gazing off in the opposite direction, this
could indicate that they have other distractions, and the relationship isn’t
the uppermost thing on their mind right now.
Reversed people cards are significant in this context, as a reversal can
change the direction in which the figure in the card is gazing. When a human figure, whether upright or
reversed, is moving in the direction away from the Lovers, it warns that that
person may be distancing him/herself from the relationship.
Flanking cards that don’t portray
personalities, but instead, various types of matters, could denote resources
that individuals bring to a relationship, or issues that will impact the
relationship. So, the Ace of Cups or
Swords next to one of the pair of Lovers could indicate an intensity of
different types of feelings on the part of the partner in question. “Twos” cards could depict the need to make
adjustments to accommodate the other partner.
Pentacles cards put an emphasis on practical matters and material
needs. A Major Arcana card would have
something to do with the greater significance of the relationship to the
individual’s life path, whereas a Minor Arcana card would indicate that, (at
least for that partner), the relationship is more immediately affected by some
daily life issues.
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